Mutual, infinite, giving and receiving.
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Masculine: Structure and Order
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Feminine: Nurture and Care
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We are all of us both; masculine and feminine.
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Establishing this balance within yourself is foundational.
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People often internalize the voice of a critical parent (or other authority figure). When fear, insecurity, exhaustion, or any perceived weakness arises, they can be brutal to themselves and push themselves harder.
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I had a client who was on the verge of a mental breakdown. He lived alone, worked an insane amount, reported to tyrannical bosses, and continually criticized himself for his weaknesses.
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When he started to buy good food for himself, establish a meditation/contemplation practice, and balance the inner critic with self-compassion, his difficult life became tolerable and he began to formulate a vision to improve his work situation.
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Some consequences of being out of balance:
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Remain stuck in a bad situation because of low energy,
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Outsource the need for nurture and care to others (relationships),
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Numbing (substances, porn, food).
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Masculine: Structure and Order
⠀
Feminine: Nurture and Care
⠀
We are all of us both; masculine and feminine.
⠀
Establishing this balance within yourself is foundational.
⠀
People often internalize the voice of a critical parent (or other authority figure). When fear, insecurity, exhaustion, or any perceived weakness arises, they can be brutal to themselves and push themselves harder.
⠀
I had a client who was on the verge of a mental breakdown. He lived alone, worked an insane amount, reported to tyrannical bosses, and continually criticized himself for his weaknesses.
⠀
When he started to buy good food for himself, establish a meditation/contemplation practice, and balance the inner critic with self-compassion, his difficult life became tolerable and he began to formulate a vision to improve his work situation.
⠀
Some consequences of being out of balance:
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Remain stuck in a bad situation because of low energy,
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Outsource the need for nurture and care to others (relationships),
⠀
Numbing (substances, porn, food).
You are responsible for being a good mother (nurture and care) and a good father (structure and order) to yourself.
Practice treating yourself like someone you care about. It may take time.
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